{"id":3914,"date":"2026-11-13T07:57:26","date_gmt":"2026-11-13T06:57:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.avocat-bouria.com\/fr\/?p=3914"},"modified":"2026-11-13T07:57:27","modified_gmt":"2026-11-13T06:57:27","slug":"141-violences-intrafamiliales-not-all-men","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.avocat-bouria.com\/nl\/2026\/11\/13\/141-violences-intrafamiliales-not-all-men\/","title":{"rendered":"#141 &#8211; Violences intrafamiliales : Not all men?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-pullquote\"><blockquote><p><em>&#8220;Refuser de regarder ces violences, les minimiser ou d\u00e9tourner syst\u00e9matiquement la conversation, c&#8217;est emp\u00eacher la prise de conscience&#8221;<\/em>.<\/p><cite>Nadia Bouria <\/cite><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Embed Player\" width=\"100%\" height=\"188px\" src=\"https:\/\/embed.acast.com\/61e92893b12eb70013d3a6e4\/6af6016479bddcbf5378dd56\" scrolling=\"no\" frameBorder=\"0\" style=\"border:none;overflow:hidden;\"><\/iframe>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">D\u00e8s&nbsp;qu\u2019on&nbsp;parle&nbsp;des&nbsp;violences&nbsp;faites&nbsp;aux&nbsp;femmes,&nbsp;il&nbsp;y&nbsp;a&nbsp;presque&nbsp;toujours&nbsp;quelqu\u2019un&nbsp;pour&nbsp;rappeler&nbsp;que&nbsp;les&nbsp;hommes&nbsp;aussi&nbsp;sont&nbsp;victimes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Que&nbsp;les&nbsp;femmes&nbsp;peuvent&nbsp;\u00eatre&nbsp;violentes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Que&nbsp;certaines&nbsp;inventent&nbsp;des&nbsp;accusations&nbsp;pour&nbsp;obtenir&nbsp;la&nbsp;garde&nbsp;des&nbsp;enfants.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">J\u2019ai&nbsp;lu&nbsp;ces&nbsp;commentaires&nbsp;sous&nbsp;mes&nbsp;vid\u00e9os.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Et&nbsp;je&nbsp;dois&nbsp;dire&nbsp;qu\u2019ils&nbsp;m\u2019ont&nbsp;interpell\u00e9e.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Pourquoi&nbsp;est-il&nbsp;si&nbsp;difficile&nbsp;de&nbsp;parler&nbsp;des&nbsp;violences&nbsp;faites&nbsp;aux&nbsp;femmes&nbsp;sans&nbsp;que&nbsp;la&nbsp;conversation&nbsp;soit&nbsp;imm\u00e9diatement&nbsp;d\u00e9tourn\u00e9e&nbsp;?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">J\u2019ai&nbsp;voulu&nbsp;comprendre.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">J&#8217;ai&nbsp;donc&nbsp;lu&nbsp;des&nbsp;\u00e9tudes&nbsp;en&nbsp;psychologie&nbsp;et&nbsp;en&nbsp;sociologie&nbsp;pour&nbsp;essayer&nbsp;de&nbsp;d\u00e9crypter&nbsp;ces&nbsp;m\u00e9canismes&nbsp;:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>la\u00a0menace\u00a0identitaire,<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>la\u00a0banalisation\u00a0de\u00a0certains\u00a0comportements,<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>la\u00a0solidarit\u00e9\u00a0masculine,<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>et,\u00a0bien\u00a0s\u00fbr,\u00a0le\u00a0d\u00e9ni.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">La&nbsp;violence&nbsp;ne&nbsp;se&nbsp;r\u00e9sume&nbsp;pas&nbsp;\u00e0&nbsp;un&nbsp;coup&nbsp;ou&nbsp;des&nbsp;coups.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Elle&nbsp;peut&nbsp;aussi&nbsp;s&#8217;installer&nbsp;progressivement,&nbsp;dans&nbsp;le&nbsp;contr\u00f4le,&nbsp;l&#8217;isolement,&nbsp;les&nbsp;intimidations&nbsp;et&nbsp;les&nbsp;petites&nbsp;contraintes&nbsp;du&nbsp;quotidien.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Et&nbsp;dans&nbsp;ma&nbsp;pratique&nbsp;d\u2019avocate,&nbsp;je&nbsp;constate&nbsp;que&nbsp;ces&nbsp;m\u00e9canismes&nbsp;ne&nbsp;disparaissent&nbsp;pas&nbsp;avec&nbsp;la&nbsp;s\u00e9paration.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ils&nbsp;peuvent&nbsp;m\u00eame&nbsp;prendre&nbsp;de&nbsp;nouvelles&nbsp;formes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Cet&nbsp;\u00e9pisode&nbsp;est&nbsp;un&nbsp;peu&nbsp;diff\u00e9rent&nbsp;des&nbsp;autres.&nbsp;Il&nbsp;ne&nbsp;s&#8217;agit&nbsp;pas&nbsp;de&nbsp;distribuer&nbsp;des&nbsp;bons&nbsp;et&nbsp;des&nbsp;mauvais&nbsp;points,&nbsp;mais&nbsp;de&nbsp;comprendre&nbsp;pourquoi&nbsp;il&nbsp;est&nbsp;parfois&nbsp;si&nbsp;difficile&nbsp;de&nbsp;regarder&nbsp;cette&nbsp;r\u00e9alit\u00e9&nbsp;en&nbsp;face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Et&nbsp;surtout,&nbsp;de&nbsp;poser&nbsp;une&nbsp;question&nbsp;:&nbsp;si&nbsp;vous&nbsp;n&#8217;\u00eates&nbsp;pas&nbsp;un&nbsp;homme&nbsp;violent,&nbsp;pourquoi&nbsp;vous&nbsp;sentiriez-vous&nbsp;personnellement&nbsp;vis\u00e9&nbsp;lorsqu&#8217;on&nbsp;parle&nbsp;des&nbsp;violences&nbsp;commises&nbsp;par&nbsp;d&#8217;autres&nbsp;hommes&nbsp;?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Un&nbsp;\u00e9pisode&nbsp;de&nbsp;&#8220;<em>La&nbsp;Justice&nbsp;et&nbsp;Moi&#8221;<\/em>&nbsp;\u00e0&nbsp;\u00e9couter&nbsp;sans&nbsp;esquiver&nbsp;le&nbsp;sujet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bonne&nbsp;\u00e9coute&nbsp;!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><u>Notes&nbsp;:<\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Belgique<\/strong>\u00a0:\u00a0Police\u00a0f\u00e9d\u00e9rale\u00a0:\u00a0Moniteur\u00a0de\u00a0s\u00e9curit\u00e9\u00a02024,\u00a0en\u00a0particulier\u00a0les\u00a0pages\u00a041\u00a0et\u00a042\u00a0et\u00a0les\u00a0tableaux\u00a0relatifs\u00a0\u00e0\u00a0la\u00a0victimisation\u00a0hors\u00a0sph\u00e8re\u00a0familiale\u00a0et\u00a0intrafamiliales\u00a0:\u00a0https:\/\/www.police.be\/statistiques\/fr\/moniteur-de-securite\/moniteur-de-securite-2024\/tendances-federales<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Belgique<\/strong>\u00a0:\u00a0Les\u00a0violences\u00a0li\u00e9es\u00a0au\u00a0genre\u00a0en\u00a0Belgique\u00a0\u2013\u00a0Regards\u00a0statistiques\u00a0:\u00a0https:\/\/www.iweps.be\/publication\/les-violences-liees-au-genre-en-belgique\/<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>France<\/strong>\u00a0:\u00a0Violences\u00a0physiques\u00a0hors\u00a0cadre\u00a0familial\u00a0&#8211;\u00a0SSMSI\u00a0:\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/statistiques.interieur.gouv.fr\/ssmsi\/publications\/info-rapide-ndeg57-les-victimes-de-violences-physiques-hors-cadre-familial\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">https:\/\/statistiques.interieur.gouv.fr\/ssmsi\/publications\/info-rapide-ndeg57-les-victimes-de-violences-physiques-hors-cadre-familial<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>France\u00a0<\/strong>:\u00a0Violences\u00a0conjugales\u00a0&#8211;\u00a0SSMSI\u00a0:\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/statistiques.interieur.gouv.fr\/ssmsi\/publications\/info-rapide-ndeg56-les-violences-conjugales-enregistrees-par-les-services-de-securite\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">https:\/\/statistiques.interieur.gouv.fr\/ssmsi\/publications\/info-rapide-ndeg56-les-violences-conjugales-enregistrees-par-les-services-de-securite<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">1.&nbsp;LizzioWilson,&nbsp;M.,&nbsp;Thai,&nbsp;M.,&nbsp;Hersey,&nbsp;M.&nbsp;&amp;&nbsp;Batchelor,&nbsp;D.&nbsp;(2025).&nbsp;Stuck&nbsp;in&nbsp;the&nbsp;middle:&nbsp;Men&nbsp;experience&nbsp;countervailing&nbsp;reactions&nbsp;to&nbsp;discussions&nbsp;about&nbsp;misogyny&nbsp;and&nbsp;violence&nbsp;against&nbsp;women.&nbsp;Psychology&nbsp;of&nbsp;Men&nbsp;&amp;&nbsp;Masculinities,&nbsp;26(4),&nbsp;565-582.&nbsp;DOI&nbsp;:&nbsp;10.1037\/men0000514.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">eprints.whiterose.ac.uk<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">2.&nbsp;Flood,&nbsp;M.,&nbsp;Dragiewicz,&nbsp;M.&nbsp;&amp;&nbsp;Pease,&nbsp;B.&nbsp;(2020).&nbsp;Resistance&nbsp;and&nbsp;backlash&nbsp;to&nbsp;gender&nbsp;equality.&nbsp;Australian&nbsp;Journal&nbsp;of&nbsp;Social&nbsp;Issues,&nbsp;56,&nbsp;393-408.&nbsp;DOI&nbsp;:&nbsp;10.1002\/ajs4.137.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Wiley&nbsp;Online&nbsp;Library<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">3.&nbsp;Smyth,&nbsp;M.&nbsp;R.,&nbsp;Teicher,&nbsp;S.&nbsp;&amp;&nbsp;Wilde,&nbsp;D.&nbsp;J.&nbsp;(2024).&nbsp;How&nbsp;Does&nbsp;Denial,&nbsp;Minimization,&nbsp;Justifying,&nbsp;and&nbsp;Blaming&nbsp;Operate&nbsp;in&nbsp;Intimate&nbsp;Partner&nbsp;Abuse&nbsp;Committed&nbsp;by&nbsp;Men:&nbsp;A&nbsp;Systematic&nbsp;Review&nbsp;of&nbsp;the&nbsp;Literature.&nbsp;Trauma,&nbsp;Violence,&nbsp;&amp;&nbsp;Abuse,&nbsp;25(3),&nbsp;1853-1870.&nbsp;DOI&nbsp;:&nbsp;10.1177\/15248380231196108.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">PubMed<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">4.&nbsp;Towns,&nbsp;A.&nbsp;J.&nbsp;&amp;&nbsp;Terry,&nbsp;G.&nbsp;(2014).&nbsp;&#8220;You&#8217;re&nbsp;in&nbsp;That&nbsp;Realm&nbsp;of&nbsp;Unpredictability&#8221;:&nbsp;Mateship,&nbsp;Loyalty,&nbsp;and&nbsp;Men&nbsp;Challenging&nbsp;Men&nbsp;Who&nbsp;Use&nbsp;Domestic&nbsp;Violence&nbsp;Against&nbsp;Women.&nbsp;Violence&nbsp;Against&nbsp;Women,&nbsp;20(8),&nbsp;1012-1036.&nbsp;DOI&nbsp;:&nbsp;10.1177\/1077801214546232.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">PubMed<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;Refuser de regarder ces violences, les minimiser ou d\u00e9tourner syst\u00e9matiquement la conversation, c&#8217;est emp\u00eacher la prise de conscience&#8221;. 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